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Growing Leaders Series: Why Relationship Status Matters If You Want To Be A Bold Leader – by Liz Lawrence, MA, LPC-S

Hello Readers. We would all agree that your relationship status on social media platforms can and often does influence your network. But why does your relationship status matter if you want to be a bold leader?

Bold leaders are not commonplace, and they are needed. “Bold leaders are not fearless, they are not the ultra-smart nor are they ultra-resourced.”-Andy Stanley in lifelessonsoverlunch. You have the potential to exhibit bold leadership.  A bold leader isn’t a brash, loud, always extroverted, always risk-taking person either. Andy goes on to say, “A bold leader is one who provides clarity around an unreasonable commitment to what should be.” This person provides clarity, focus, healthy stubbornness and resourcefulness in relationship with others.

Bold leadership comes out of recognizing your relationships. A relationship status can often be understood as something we post online, but it can also be the current quality of your connection to those you value.  This is more of the “relationship status I’m referring to.

 

How’s your relationship status influencing and impacting your current position as a leader?

Who you are “with” both influences and impacts your leadership. There can be a misunderstood disconnect between leadership and our relationship status because we often think who we are “with” doesn’t affect how we lead. Not true. A leader’s connection or oneness with friends, family, co-workers, spouse, or partner help us to be our true selves. What goes on at home does come to the office. If there is dysfunction, or a lack of health, in our closest relationships then we will be hindered in leading well. If there is strength, support, affirmation, enjoyment in those close relationships then we will lead more boldly.

When we are in a healthy and thriving relationship we can more easily lead with boldness. That’s because healthy and thriving relationships allow us to experience real love, help us grow in our capacity to relate to others, and help us become more of our true selves. In your truest self you are confident, hopeful, inspired, compassionate and bold.  You can easily present clarity because you aren’t concerned about your insecurities being hidden. You can also more easily remain “stubbornly dedicated to something that is right” and “should be” that will benefit others. Lastly, you can also humbly experience others input as you are more willing to be teachable and open.

 

So, how’s your relationship quality?

Leaders are taught to receive as much training or equipping as possibly to improve their leadership skills but we often are not encouraged to receive training or equipping just to improve our relationships. Often that training is reserved for a problem area or as a last resort in a crisis. If we managed our leadership growth the way we are often encourage to manage our relational training our businesses would never grow.

Strong relationships with those who we consider the closest and dearest must be our first ambition, our first passion and our loudest message. You rock at nourishing your business for the long-term. In your planning also give time to nourish your own soul, and your closest relationships for the long-term too.

 

Take advantage of the upcoming holidays. We are about to go into a holiday break for many industries. Maybe this might be the time to reconnect with others. It might not look like Ebenezer Scrooge reconnecting, or maybe it will.

It’s true that your relationship status matters to a bold leader. What’s your first next step in this area?

 

  • Are you prioritizing your closest relationships? Or is this a season when something has to get pushed aside for a time?
  • Are you receiving the growth tools you have interest in now?
  • If not, where could you go or who could you ask about those tools?
  • What is your greatest challenge or celebratory story of leading out of your current relationship status?

 

Connect with me and let me know how it goes!

 

Warmly,

Liz

 

Liz Lawrence, MA, LPC-S is counselor, coach and creative who is passionate about people. She directs a counseling center in Austin, Texas and co-leads the non-profit Renue.Me whose mission is to invest in the dreams of leaders in underprivileged communities around the world. Connect with her at www.lizlawrencelpc.com  or www.renue.me

 

Similar content originally posted on Stilettos on the Glass Ceiling, http://stilettosontheglassceiling.com/.

 

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