Have you wondered if you are ready for that next level or if you have what you need to get there? Or have you been working to get to the next level, but there are things that seem to be holding you back?
With your answers to this quiz you can gain clarity on a next step or a much-needed boost of confidence. This brief quiz gives some insight into how close you might be to that next level. (FYI- By no means is this a scientifically proven quiz, it comes from a bit of research and many years of discussions and personal experience.)
The quiz checks in on a few things.
- First it looks at that might hold you back from that next level: regrets, fear, fatigue and holding onto failures.
- Next it checks in on a few things that might help you reach that next level: healthy rhythms, ability to dream and act, healthy relationships, and brain wellness.
After you complete the quiz, keep reading below to gather some ideas for the next level.
So did you gain clarity or confidence after responding to the quiz?
If your answers revealed more things holding you back right now instead of things helping you, now is the time to address those.
Why might these hidden things keep you from the next level? Regrets, fears, fatigue and holding onto failures are anchors holding you down. We often think that “if I just rehearse this memory, or this mistake, over and over I will learn from it”. We also mistakenly think that “if I hold onto that regret I can keep it from happening again”. Both of those are anchors because they keep our brain in a place of anxiety. When our brain is in the anxiety place not only can it not think clearly, it can’t dream, it can’t brainstorm, it can’t connect to healthy people very easily.
- These anchors lead to unhealthy behaviors that keep us mired down – eating what’s available rather than what’s healthy; overworking rather than resting when worn out; isolating rather than being vulnerably healthy; unhealthy thought patterns rather than confident self talk are just a few behaviors that typically are seen with these anchors.
- Take the next step to your next level by looking at the items in sections 4, 5 & 6. These reflect some helpful ways to cut loose those anchors. The complete cutting can’t be done on your own and that step 1. So connect with some healthy friends, loved ones, or a professional coach or counselor. Also connect with God, the One who created you to even crave that next level. He knows you, is for you and truly has good for you. Need a hand up? Connect with me and if I’m not a fit for your goals or needs, we can talk about some resources that might be better fits.
If your answers revealed a few things going on now that help you reach that next level later, then keep it up!
Why might these things help you reach that next level? Healthy rhythms, the ability to dream and act, healthy relationships, and brain wellness are like comfortable shoes that support your every step. When we respect ourselves and recognize our current limits, we put into place healthy daily rhythms that allow for what we define as “success”. For example: Success for me is everyday loving people better and living out my inspired creativity.
- Continue to put these healthy rhythms into practice that are listed in sections 4, 5 & 6.
- Consider adding in the practice of talking out-loud to yourself. In 2014, the University of Michigan’s Ethan Kross released a paper saying that self-talk can make us feel better about ourselves and instill a confidence that can help us get through tough challenges. He found that talking in the third or second person, helped people control their feelings and thoughts better than those who spoke in the first person. For Christians, these means lining up our thoughts and our speech with our identity in Christ, not our circumstances.
With any answer we see our shared need for significance. Not only do we want to keep moving to next levels, we also want to know our efforts matter and that we are seen. Our lives matter and we are not alone as we grow, change, and move up to that next level.
(What could you do if you feel lonely as you move into the next level? If this is a season or a time of change when there are not a lot of healthy people in your life, or maybe you have healthy loved ones but you don’t get to see each other as much as you would like, then you might be experiencing loneliness. It’s easy to try to rationalize or reason with this to determine why this is happening. Some well-meaning Christians might say, God is purging relationships, or God is cleansing you, or God is protecting you, or God is punishing you. If you think any of those might be true, then ask God if they are true and what you can do about it. He is a good Father, he is for you and wants good for you so ask him. If you wonder if it’s you, that you aren’t a good friend or something else, then perhaps consider seeking out a Christian coach, counselor, mentor or Pastor to be an objective voice of grace and kindness. Then consider stepping out to make new friends where you are: join a small group at your church, join a hangout where people do healthy things together, or start serving on a team with the energy and time capacity you have now.)
What’s your first next step after the quiz and the interpretation?
Who’s in this with you that you can invite into the conversation?
Connect with me and let me know how it goes!
Liz Lawrence, MA, LPC-S is counselor, coach and creative who is passionate about people. She directs a counseling center in Austin, Texas and with husband David Lawrence co-leads the non-profit Renue.Me whose mission is to invest in the dreams of leaders in underprivileged communities around the world. Connect with her at www.lizlawrencelpc.com or www.renue.me
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