Hello Dear Reader. What clicked in you when you decided to click on this blog? It seems on average, 98.5% of people are in the midst of transition or experiencing a change each day. Within that statistic, 40% of working adults will transition jobs or change jobs 10-15 times in their lives. So…either you are reading this as you currently are in transition or you will be experiencing a change soon. Wow, I’m glad you clicked! How are you doing?
If you are like me and the majority of those statistics, then there is a roller coaster that either looks like the kiddy park or feels like Space Mountain (you know the roller coaster in the dark). That’s what literally will derail most people in that 98.5 % and the 40% from transitioning well or changing to a more successful place.
I’m sure you want your transition to be a healthy one and I’m equally sure you want this change to be to a more successful place. Right?
Here are 4 Unique Keys to Move Ahead!
First – determine is it a transition or a change because this matters on how you respond and react.
Is this a Transition? – If so this is more of a process or period of going from one stage to another, or you about to undergo or cause a process or period of change.
Is it a Change? – If so this is currently a time you will make or become different, or use another option instead, because this is the act or instance of becoming different.
Bottom line: a transition is a process or a period of time that results in a difference or a change; while a change is a current act, moment or instance when things are different. Within a change there is a quick transition and within a transition the end result is a change.
Determine it. Circle your experience: I’m in transition I’m in change
Second – determine either 1) what you want to see or 2) who you want to be through the transition and at the end of the change. What do you want to see? Who do you want to be? It will seriously surprise you how much this question will help you transition healthfully and/or change into more success. I like to think of it as “going from glory to glory”. If you have ever read the verse that describes this process in 2 Corinthians 3:18, this might be familiar.
You now have the permission to think about what you would like to see happen and/or who you want to be in the process. Did you think you just had to go through it and see what’s going to happen? Nope. You now have the power and permission to ask yourself this question! When you ask yourself this question, write it out. Writing it will bring clarity for you and will also help release some of the high or intense emotions. Next read it again and edit it for more clarity. Then share this with someone who knows you well, believes in you, and has a proven track record of helping. Ask them does this seem realistic within the context of actual reality and also in the context of faith-filled hope. Lastly post this statement in a place where you can see it and read it regularly.
Determine it. Write it out: what you want to see or who do you want to be through the transition and at the end of the change?
Third – determine your SMARTS and be CLEAR. To either transition well (go through the process of change) or change healthfully (help yourself process the difference), you will need to bring your SMARTS and be CLEAR with yourself and others.
SMART goals have been around for a while. I add the last “S” for strategic-support. Each letter stands for a word that describes how to help yourself actually achieve a set goal or dream. At this step, you will need to list out in each category so you can help yourself transition healthfully and change from glory to glory!
S – specific. A goal that is specific can be reached. Don’t just say I want to be a better friend, say I want to share a compliment or a note of gratitude to 10 friends each week.
M- measureable. A goal that can be measured can be reached. 10 can be measured.
A – achievable. A goal that is within what your limits allow can be reached. Is it achievable for you to speak to 10 friends each week?
R – realistic/relevant. A goal that is realistic and/or relevant is reachable. Is it again realistic given your current life that 10 friends are 1) available and 2) you can do this. Also is it even relevant to your goal and your relationships to share compliments or gratitude. Will the specific goal actually help?
T – timely/time-bound. A goal that has an end date is helpful. Setting general goals get us in trouble and only create frustration and lack of self respect. Set a time bound date and make the goal timely so that it is relevant and appropriately timed.
S – strategic-support. A goal that has strategic support with people around you and resources that help you achieve your goal is reachable. Who’s in it with you. What are you including or excluding from your daily rhythm to help you achieve the goal?
SMART goals are helpful, but if you feel you need more agile processing, then be CLEAR.
CLEAR – collaborative, limited, emotional, appreciable, refinable.
Being CLEAR means you invite others into the process with you (collaborate), you limit the scope and the duration of the goal, you allow for emotional connection (because you tap into yours and your teams energy and passion), you break the goals into small pieces (appreciable) that can be accomplished, and you allow for goals to be refinable (they have a headstrong objective but the method of reaching the goal can be modified as new information arises).
Determine it: What are your SMARTS? List them here:
If you want to use this one too, How can you be CLEAR? List it here:
Fourth – determine how you will give meaning to this transition and how you will celebrate the change.
We give meaning to things either intentionally or unintentionally all. the. time. So be intentional about the meaning of the transition and the change. You cant change reality but you can change how you think and feel about reality and how reality impacts you. What is the meaning of this transition to you, in other words, what does it mean for you that this happened? What will it mean to you, or for you, or about you, when the change is complete? You can help reframe the meaning so that it highlights what is true about you and your big picture. When things happen TO us, like unforeseen transitions or changes, we can extrapolate the meaning of being a victim or not being in control which may or may not have been true. Does that then mean you are a victim? Not necessarily. Be mindful about the intentional and unintentional meanings you apply and give it meaning that is true about the big picture and be sure it resonates with your true identity.
Celebration is powerful for cementing the meaning and giving yourself power to continue with your SMARTS! Celebration always involves sharing but sharing doesn’t always involve social media. It still happened even if it’s not posted. 😉 Be intentional again here to plan how you will healthfully celebrate and also who will join you.
Determine it: What is the meaning you’ve attached to this transition or this change? Now, how will you celebrate? Describe both here:
Dear Reader, we will ALL go through transitions and changes. However ALL of us will not go through these healthfully, nor will ALL of us go from one change to more success or “glory”. Be intentional about your transitions and your changes. These 4 Keys are unique ways to do so.
What most helped you from this blog? OR what will you put into practice today?
Connect with me and let’s continue to transition well and change from glory to glory!
Liz Lawrence, MA, LPC-S is counselor, coach and creative who is passionate about people. She is based in Austin, Texas and with husband David Lawrence co-leads the non-profit Renue.Me whose mission is to invest in the dreams of leaders in underprivileged communities around the world. Connect with her at www.lizlawrencelpc.com or www.renue.me
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