Dear Reader, is there any doubt that you will realize those resolutions or see the change you want to see in 2018? If so, then this post is for you! Or are you certain you will see that change this year and want some clear guidelines to bring it? If so, you also are in the right place.
I believe that in 2018 you will close the gap between dream and reality! Here are 4 things you can absolutely do that will help! –be sure to catch the key thought at the end —
Start where you are and you can get to where you want to be dealing with anything holding you back, making a framework or a plan, implementing that plan, and supporting that plan!
- Deal with the past – hurts, habits, and hang-ups. Anything that is holding you back needs to be dealt with, whether you kick it, heal it or reframe it. How do you know which one to choose? This is oversimplified but it’s a good start, when you think about it is there anything that feels like it’s still stuck, then it might need to be healed or reframed. Healing is for those things that when you think of it or a similar situation comes along, it physically or mentally hurts within you. Reframing is for those things that don’t hurt but they are annoying and frustrating. Again, that’s very oversimplified! When I work through these, I rely a lot on the guidance of the Holy Spirit, the Word of God, the way my body feels, and Godly counsel.
- Kick it – got any hurt, habits, or hang-ups that you can toss out like the trash? If this hurt, habit, or hang-up doesn’t need to be healed or reframed, then let yourself toss it out—before it starts smelling like leftovers.
- Heal it – we get hurt and need healing. Hurt and healing both happen in relationship and often times we need help finding a healthy relationship where healing can happen.
- Reframe it – an old habit or hang-up can often be re-wired with some reframing. Reframing is about taking that old thing and seeing it a new way with healthy eyes.
- Make a plan . In my last blog we talked about setting up a framework to help you be the best you so please check out that one to help you with this step! Be sure your framework or plan (whichever work you choose) includes at least three areas that will help you close the gap between dream and reality: your whole health, your situation, and your community.
- Your whole health – you are a whole person so be sure to consider your whole health (physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, and relationally).
- Your situation –your dreams include how you want things to look different in your life so be clear about what those differences are in your dream.
- Your community – whatever changes you make in your life will have an impact on those around you so why not be intentional?! Truly it’s not only good sense and good health to give of our time and resources to our community, it’s also what we were created to do! We were not just created to see our own dreams come to reality, but to be change-agents in our communities!
- Implement the plan. A plan without implementation is still just a dream. ‘Nuff said.
- Smart goals – be smart about your goals—SMART is an acronym that’s been around quite a while and that’s because it makes sense. When you set goals make them specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely/time-sensitive.
- Tactical objectives – break your SMART goals down into steps if needed to both help you with the steps and also to keep your confidence strong. These small steps are your tactical objectives that when you accomplish the little ones you check off the big goal in time too.
- Timeline – speaking of time, a dream becomes a plan that becomes a dream realized when the plan has a timeline. Set up complete-by-dates or deadlines or goal achievement celebrations to help you stay on target.
- Support the plan. In that blog from last week I talked about the ways you can support yourself as you set up your framework. These are 4 main ways to provide support, but you might like different ones that best support you.
- People – who do you need with you in these, who has knowledge or skills that will help you, who has done the same goal well before, who do you want to share your journey with in this plan?
- Visual – keep the framework or plan along with the tactical objectives and big goals in front of you. This is not only smart science, this is powerfully Biblical wisdom! If something is visual in front of you then you will stay strong in your vision for the goal!
- Calendar – no matter how strong or how practical or tactical your plan, if you don’t put it on the calendar it’s not going to happen. So schedule realistic time blocks for those tactical objectives, then set reminders on your devices, and then actually do the tasks when the reminders come up. Remember to also set the date to celebrate when its time to finish the goal!
- Celebrate – it’s not enough to just accomplish a goal, it’s best to accomplish a goal and then celebrate it! When you celebrate it you show respect, honor, and joy to yourself and you also acknowledge those who helped you get there!
Now here’s a very key thought—goals, plans, frameworks, dreams and vision is all great but it can be detrimental if they are not connected to the best version of you. That’s why I started the blog post last week with the question of “what do you need to be the best version of you”. We were each created by a loving Creator who designed you and me for this time in history. Life, hurts, habits, and hang-ups, and just adulting can get in the way of our best versions—but it doesn’t have to! When you set up a strong framework that allows you to be the best you, then you can also dream from that “best-you-place” and set plans from that “best-you-place” with people who support the best version of you!
If it’s been a while since you saw they best version of you, or if you’re not quite sure what that even looks like, or if the idea of following a loving Creator is something you are interested in but have some hurt from church or other people, then let’s chat. I’ve been in each of those places and would love to walk alongside you to help you be you, find your voice and impact your world in the way only you can!
I said this last week and it’s just as true this week: “When you and I take responsibility for our moments each year, we create the reality where we can realize resolutions.” I’d also add this week that when we take responsibility then we close the gap between dream and reality to make dreams realities.
Need some support? Let’s chat and I’m here to help determine if I’m a good fit to help you with your goals or if I have a resource or referral that will help!
Join me as we close those gaps this year!
Liz Lawrence, MA, LPC-S is counselor, coach and creative who is passionate about people. She directs a counseling center in Austin, Texas and with husband David Lawrence co-leads the non-profit Renue.Me whose mission is to invest in the dreams of leaders in underprivileged communities around the world. Connect with her at www.lizlawrencelpc.com or www.renue.me
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